Proverbs tells us that “The more things change, the more they stay the same”
Sometimes that passage makes my brain hurt. We all know that nothing stays the same. We all know that life is constantly changing. However, I think that we all under-estimate this fact in many ways. What I mean is, when things are going great in our lives, we don’t think about the times that they weren’t so great and with it, we often forget to thank God for the innumerable blessings that are gift to us.
And, when things are going badly and we are feeling down, it is sometimes hard to remember that we were ever happy and that somehow, in God’s eyes–perhaps we have failed or done something wrong.
In both these cases, it is important for us to not only remember, but to also reflect that God is with us through the difficult as well as the abundant times–and there are lessons for us on both sides.
If we take some time to reflect on the bad days, on days that are going well for us, we can get a better perspective on our lives. Seeing a bad day from the perspective of a good day, allows us to become “aware” of the notion that time heals. Something, that on our bad days, we may not be able to fully appreciate.
On our bad days, the notion that “time heals”, may seem like a small consolation. That brings me to the reason that on a bad day, taking some time to reflect on the happier times, can be helpful in not allowing ourselves to spiral into those hopeless feelings.
Our perceptions of the changes in our lives, both good and bad, are what will determine our reactions to those changes. So, if we can react with the “awareness” that nothing stays the same, and that nothing is meant to stay the same, then we are creating a more comfortable reality for ourselves.
A lesson for me is not not take my highs, so high, that when something brings me down, I crash. And, not to let my lows, bring me so low, that when something comes around that could pick me up, I am so deep in despair that I can’t even realize it. This may seem easier said than done with all that has been stripped from our lives lately, but, as with everything else, the more I practice it, the easier it will become.
For today, the sun rose this morning, the dog woke me with an abundance of kisses, my husband read the paper we me and we talked. We enjoyed our home brewed coffee and spent an hour talking with my sister from Arizona. Free, non-stressful and a gift from our Lord.